“One of the most sacrificial acts of love adoptive parents can do is to give up their preconceptions and agendas.” page 16
Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge.
Delta, Bantam Dell, Random House, New York, 1999.
Nonfiction, 224 pages including index and recommended reading.
This book of advice, information, and deep thought aims at communicating with the next generation of adoptive parents so the adoptive experience can be better.
This was probably the most helpful book I read before becoming a parent. (One was great for general parenting but not especially relevant to this blog.) Sadly, this isn’t a book recommended by a social worker or from one of our required classes.
Some of my adopted friends reminded us to consider the child’s perspective. At the used bookstore this was the only book by adoptees I could find. Rereading it for this review was an unexpectedly emotional journey.
“Paris was not the place for me or my son. The French could entertain the idea of me because they were not immersed in guilt about a mutual history…” p. 165
Singin’ and Swingin’ and Gettin’ Merry Like Christmas by Maya Angelou.
Bantam, New York, 1977 (originally published 1976).
Adult autobiography, 242 pages.
In a funny coincidence, I gave away Angelou books (not even read yet… but better loved by someone else) and then a month later came across this in the free books. Of course I started reading this one immediately and it was fascinating. I’ve read quite a bit of her poetry before, but never one of her autobiographies. Upon reading this one I realized that they are probably best read chronologically.
This title is the third, and covers the time when she lived in San Francisco after her son was born, worked a wide variety of jobs, spent a few years married to a white man, and eventually found herself with an entertainment career that took her all over the world, but sadly separated her from her son.
Kisses from Katie: A Story of Relentless Love and Redemption by Katie Davis with Beth Clark.
Howard Books, Simon & Schuster, New York, 2011.
Memoir, 264 pages.
Lexile: not leveled
AR Level: 6.6 (worth 13.0 points) .
This is a story of a young American who moved to Uganda, adopted 13 girls, and started a non-profit, motivated by her belief that Jesus was calling her there.
Kisses for Katie is very religious. I knew from the subtitle and her blog that this book was Christian, but didn’t expect it to be so heavy-handed. I was also confused about the intended audience. Given that literally every page included at least one reference to God, praying, or religion, one would assume this is a specialty book intended for a specifically Christian audience. However, there are repeated points where commonly known Bible stories are summarized as if to someone unfamiliar with Christianity.
“The rice was harvested, and the poor were allowed to glean the fields for fallen grain-heads. It was an arduous, backbreaking task: hours of work to gather mere handfuls of rice.” p. 53
A Single Shard by Linda Sue Park.
Dell Yearling, Random House Books, New York, 2001.
MG historical fiction, 152 pages plus extra back matter.
2002 Newbery Award Winner.
Lexile: 920L .
AR Level: 6.6 (worth 6.0 points) .
This novel follows a 12th century Korean orphan who is happy at first just to scrounge enough food to survive, but gradually becomes immersed in the world of the master potters of Ch’ulp’o, known for their breathtaking celadon ceramics.
I was first given this book back when it was released and a friend told me I had to read it. For whatever reason I resisted. Perhaps because I didn’t care much for historical fiction at the time. Another reason could have been the nearly all-male cast. Tree-ear’s world is full of men and boys, with only one female character of any notice. While it wouldn’t pass the Bechdel test, the characters do come from a wide economic spectrum.
“Like you, I was brought to a family who loved me and whom I love. I cannot stop loving that family, and I don’t want to. I can only allow my love to increase.” page 377
The Girl Who Drank the Moon by Kelly Barnhill.
Algonquin Young Readers, Chapel Hill, North Carolina, 2016.
Middle grade fantasy, 386 pages.
Lexile: 640L .
AR Level: 4.8 (worth 12.0 points) .
Xan is the witch of the forest. Every year, the isolated people of the protectorate leave a baby in the forest for no reason she can fathom. Not one to let an infant die in the forest, she takes it on the perilous journey to the other lands, where the children are heralded as Star Children, and adopted into carefully chosen families. On the way, she feeds them starlight. Until one day the aging witch feeds a child moonlight instead…
I enjoyed this book, but wouldn’t recommend you buy it.
“I have come to believe that her life was ruined not by septic shock or noncompliant parents but by cross-cultural misunderstanding.” page 262
The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down by Anne Fadiman.
Farrar, Straus, and Giroux, New York, my edition 1998 (first published 1997).
Nonfiction, 341 pages +reader’s guide.
This is the story of a severely epileptic Hmong girl and the family and doctors who wanted what was best for her but disagreed about what that was. It’s also the story of the Hmong people in America, and their experiences with the medical establishment.
This is technically a re-read. However, I didn’t remember much, so it was like reading a new book. The primary story in this book is Lia’s life and the friction between her family and the medical staff caring for her, but it has a wide scope.